My name is Melane. Welcome to Midlife is Magical!
I started this blog as a place to share the stories and surprises that can happen during midlife. I was looking for an online place to offer support, encouragement and real empathy as I experienced significant life change.
Turning fifty turned my world upside down. After a difficult season of allowing myself to tell the truth, I made life changes. Frankly, life changes don’t happen in a vacuum, and those close to me have been impacted as a result of my decisions. Regret, guilt, sadness…..happiness, anticipation and adventure swirl inside me most days, life is both sunshine and shadow.
This is a place to share those feelings.
Choosing to leave financial security for a new life was scary. The internet is full of cautionary tales of women who fall into severe poverty after divorce. I needed a place that offered hope and practical information for middle age women navigating the challenges of gray divorce.
I had never lived alone until my divorce. Statistically, I am the tail end of generations who married young and went from their family home to a married home. I wanted to read profiles about women like me who found out that they would survive being alone. In fact, I would have loved to find stories of women who found their new normal while learning to cook for one.
I did not develop a career during my time as a wife and mother. As a exciting result of my life changes, I am going to grad school with the intention of building a later -in -life career. Some women are faced with the reality that they are undereducated or outdated in their work skills as they begin the journey of relying on their sole income. While this has the potential to be both scary and wonderful, I want you to join me on this journey of stepping forward into our next challenge.
My promise to you, my friend, is that I will never tell you midlife is easy. It isn’t. These years are the most complex, frightening and uncharted days of my life. But, I can assure you, mid-life is NOT a crisis.
Walk this path with me, coffee cup in hand and tissue box nearby. Join with me as we experience the joy and magic of a fresh start!