Let’s talk about the benefits of being a controlling mom. (crickets) Admit it, there are absolutely no benefits to being a controlling mom. Or dad. Or grandma. Or person. If you are a controlling mom, your kids will avoid you. When you are a controlling person, being avoided is a trigger. Realizing that you are…
How To Change If Your Daughter Is Your Best Friend
Mother/daughter relationships are complicated and can be life defining. Stay with me, cause it’s going to seem harsh, but your adult daughter should not be your best friend. I know, I know, I sound harsh and judgmental (not sorry). Hang with me as I explain why your adult daughter should not be your best friend….
Dating After Divorce Is Scary. Are You Ready To Love Again?
Don’t wait too long date after a divorce After a divorce, the most common advice is to stay out of relationships for a while. On the surface, it makes sense, I mean… you just ended a marriage. That is heavy duty stuff. Most days your emotional load needs a bulldozer to carry it across the…
Middle-Aged Women Can Choose Happiness!
Permission to Choose Happiness Welcome back lovelies! This is a second and final post in a micro- series of how middle-aged women can choose happiness.(Follow this link to Part One) Like always, I have short stories, a smidge of psychology and some suggestions to help you design your best life ever. In the previous post…
How To Make A Middle Aged Woman Happy
Have you ever had someone say to you ” Make yourself happy”? Usually it is said after a disagreement or some type of conflict. Rarely is it said in a neutral tone, am I right? So, lets talk about making ourselves happy, cause it is a bit more complicated then it should be. ( Note:…
How To Share Holidays With Adult Married Kids
Celebrating the holidays with adult married kids can be difficult. It’s a mixed bag of new independence and old traditions, with a side dish of sentimentality. New relationships and old allegiances can be a challenging mix. Too often the result is an emotional bang followed by a cloud of angry smoke. One serious family fight…
Grandparents Are Not Childcare Providers-Here’s Why
Have you had the “talk” with your adult kids yet? You know the one… the talk where your kids ask you to provide free childcare because you are the grandparent? Don’t feel bad if your answer was a hearty “Hell No!!” Newsflash: Grandparents are not obligated to provide childcare for their grandchildren You are not…
How To Get Out Of Bed During A Divorce
Going through a divorce is pretty much one of the hardest things in life. It can tear your guts out like nothing else, except possibly the loss of a child. Somedays it feels impossible to get out of bed when you are going through a divorce. You wake up and remember that your life is…
How To Host Blended Family Holidays With Adult Children
Blended families have the potential to be a wonderful gift. When you marry someone with kids, there is a pre-existing sense of love and affection for their children. It is a joy to see the qualities, character traits and quirks displayed in the children of your new partner. Recently I got married to the most…
Falling Out Of Love Can Be Fixed, Here’s How
Do you feel like you are falling out of love with your spouse? Not surprisingly, this is a common concern in longer marriages. We all know that marriage can be like a roller coaster at times. But when a couple lives disconnected, distanced, and discouraged from each other, they are headed for choppy waters. Falling…