FACT: Everyone has an inner bully. MORE FACTS: Inner thought bullies keep us stuck. As a result of being stuck, we miss out on taking risks and living our best life. We All Have Behavior Issues All people have behavior cycles that are a result of our mindset. It is part of being human. If…
Does My Husband Make Me Unhappy?
The other day I got a text from a friend, she wanted me to help her figure out why she feels unhappy. This is the question she sent me: How do you determine if your unhappiness is because of marriage/spouse, symptom of current illness or chemical imbalance? After I wrote her a long response, I…
Decision Making Skills That Will Improve Your Life
Have you ever made a dumb, hasty, immature, reactive or plain stupid decision? Or wished you had better decision making skills? Yup! Of course, you have ‘cause you are human. None of us has the ability to make the right decision every time. It just isn’t possible! This post will help you understand and improve…
How To Be The Black Sheep Of The Family And Why It Is Good For You
Where my black sheep at? I am guessing since you clicked on this post that you are different from your family. In fact, you might have even been called ‘the black sheep of the family” at one point. Cool, me too. I am the only person in my family history who has ever been divorced….
Hard Truth: We Marry Our Parents, But Why?
Have you ever had an argument with your spouse and suddenly, they seem to transform into your mom? During a conflict, have you ever felt like you are screaming at your dad? And all you can think is : Oh shit, I married my mom. Why Do We Marry Our Parents? Harsh truth: most of…
Big News!
I am back with BIG NEWS! I am DONE with grad school classes! Whooooooo! Although I am still an intern (yes, I AM the oldest intern at my school) I am officially done with the academic portion of my master’s program. I feel like I can breathe again. And more importantly, I have time to…
How To Stop Being A Controlling Mom
Let’s talk about the benefits of being a controlling mom. (crickets) Admit it, there are absolutely no benefits to being a controlling mom. Or dad. Or grandma. Or person. If you are a controlling mom, your kids will avoid you. When you are a controlling person, being avoided is a trigger. Realizing that you are…
How To Change If Your Daughter Is Your Best Friend
Mother/daughter relationships are complicated and can be life defining. Stay with me, cause it’s going to seem harsh, but your adult daughter should not be your best friend. I know, I know, I sound harsh and judgmental (not sorry). Hang with me as I explain why your adult daughter should not be your best friend….
Dating After Divorce Is Scary. Are You Ready To Love Again?
Don’t wait too long date after a divorce After a divorce, the most common advice is to stay out of relationships for a while. On the surface, it makes sense, I mean… you just ended a marriage. That is heavy duty stuff. Most days your emotional load needs a bulldozer to carry it across the…
Middle-Aged Women Can Choose Happiness!
Permission to Choose Happiness Welcome back lovelies! This is a second and final post in a micro- series of how middle-aged women can choose happiness.(Follow this link to Part One) Like always, I have short stories, a smidge of psychology and some suggestions to help you design your best life ever. In the previous post…