The relationship between parents and children is one of the most important and complex relationships that exist. Our parents are our first teachers, protectors, and role models. Establishing a healthy, respectful relationship with them once we are adults is important. Let’s take a look at some of the behaviors and signs that indicate a healthy parent-child relationship.
You Can Be Yourself Around Them
If you can be your true self around your parents without fear of being judged or criticized, it means you are comfortable and secure in your relationship with them. Knowing you will be accepted helps you relax and feel supported even when you make mistakes.
Open and Honest Communication
Communication is the cornerstone of a healthy relationship. If you can talk openly and honestly with your parents without fear of repercussions, it means you have a strong and trusting bond with them. If your parents are quick to react with anger or sarcasm, you are more likely to keep your choices to yourself.
You Respect Each Other’s Boundaries
Healthy relationships involve respecting each other’s boundaries. If your parents respect your boundaries and you respect theirs, it is a sign of mutual respect and understanding.
You Feel Supported and Cared For
Feeling supported and cared for by your parents can make a significant difference in your life. If you feel like your parents have your back, it can increase your overall well-being and happiness. Once you become an independent adult, it still helps to know that they want you to succeed in life.
You Can Have Healthy Disagreements
Healthy relationships involve healthy disagreements. If you can disagree with your parents in a respectful and constructive manner, it means you have a strong and mature relationship. Things like name-calling and the silent treatment could indicate that one of you needs a more mature style of communication.
You Feel Comfortable Seeking Their Advice
If you feel comfortable seeking your parents’ advice, it indicates that you trust their judgment and value their opinion. Your relationship is based on mutual respect and allows each person to be autonomous. You feel loved and accepted even if you don’t take the advice they offered you.
You Enjoy Spending Time Together
Enjoying spending time with your parents is a solid sign of a healthy relationship. It means you enjoy each other’s company and have a genuine bond built on respect and acceptance.
You Have A Sense Of Humor Around Each Other
Laughter is a powerful tool in any relationship. If you can share humor and enjoy each other’s company, it indicates a strong and healthy relationship. Family jokes and memories are even more meaningful when you start having your own children.
You Accept Each Other’s Flaws and Imperfections
Nobody is perfect, and accepting each other’s flaws and imperfections is a vital aspect of healthy relationships. If you and your parents can accept each other’s flaws, it means you have compassionate and mature relationships. The ability to be yourself is a trait of an emotionally balanced family.
You Show Gratitude and Appreciation
Showing gratitude and appreciation towards each other can strengthen any relationship. If you and your parents show gratitude and appreciation towards each other, it’s a sign of love and respect in your relationship.
You Feel Like You Can Grow and Learn From Each Other
Relationships should never stop growing and evolving. If you and your parents feel like you can learn and grow from each other, it means you have a dynamic and healthy relationship. Staying curious about new ideas and trending topics is a good way to keep conversations fresh and engaging.
Having a healthy and loving relationship with your parents is one of life’s greatest gifts. It can make a notable difference in your overall well-being, happiness, and sense of identity. If you had a difficult childhood with your parents, take some time and talk to them about making positive changes in your relationship. Hopefully, your parents can do some self-reflection and move toward a healthy, respectful adult family dynamic. Yes, emotionally balanced relationships take work, but staying connected to your parents can be worth the effort.
Melane Ann is a writer, blogger, and life coach. In 2020, she turned her experience in midlife divorce and creating a new life for herself into midlifeismagical. With a master's in Marriage and Family Therapy, Melane focuses on helping women over 50 navigate their relationships and commit to healthy aging. She and her new husband share 7 children between them. Melane jokes that she has a black belt in blended families! In addition to her writing, Melane works virtually with her coaching clients from her home office.