Have you ever had someone say to you ” Make yourself happy”? Usually it is said after a disagreement or some type of conflict. Rarely is it said in a neutral tone, am I right? So, lets talk about making ourselves happy, cause it is a bit more complicated then it should be. ( Note:…
How To Share Holidays With Adult Married Kids
Celebrating the holidays with adult married kids can be difficult. It’s a mixed bag of new independence and old traditions, with a side dish of sentimentality. New relationships and old allegiances can be a challenging mix. Too often the result is an emotional bang followed by a cloud of angry smoke. One serious family fight…
Grandparents Are Not Childcare Providers-Here’s Why
Have you had the “talk” with your adult kids yet? You know the one… the talk where your kids ask you to provide free childcare because you are the grandparent? Don’t feel bad if your answer was a hearty “Hell No!!” Newsflash: Grandparents are not obligated to provide childcare for their grandchildren You are not…
How To Get Out Of Bed During A Divorce
Going through a divorce is pretty much one of the hardest things in life. It can tear your guts out like nothing else, except possibly the loss of a child. Somedays it feels impossible to get out of bed when you are going through a divorce. You wake up and remember that your life is…
How To Host Blended Family Holidays With Adult Children
Blended families have the potential to be a wonderful gift. When you marry someone with kids, there is a pre-existing sense of love and affection for their children. It is a joy to see the qualities, character traits and quirks displayed in the children of your new partner. Recently I got married to the most…
Falling Out Of Love Can Be Fixed, Here’s How
Do you feel like you are falling out of love with your spouse? Not surprisingly, this is a common concern in longer marriages. We all know that marriage can be like a roller coaster at times. But when a couple lives disconnected, distanced, and discouraged from each other, they are headed for choppy waters. Falling…
Finding Love After Divorce is Possible
Your long-term marriage ended, and after some healing, you are ready to look for love again. Frightening and exciting, looking for love after a midlife divorce has its challenges. Most likely you are wary of making the same mistake again and falling in love with a new version of your old spouse. Noted. And valid….
Three Easy Ways to Deal With Setbacks and Failures in Life
I am in the middle of a physical setback. Again. Does it ever feel like setbacks and failures are regularly scheduled in life? Like there is a bullshit calendar that keep track of your progress, and then- WHAM- a setback slams into your nearly perfect life and scatters all the pieces? Yea, I have my…
You Can Break Family Dysfunctional Patterns With This Question
If you are a woman, there is a greater likelihood of carrying dysfunctional family patterns from your childhood into your adult life. Isn’t that the worst news you heard today? Yup, you are welcome. But hang on, there is hope for change. Women can change the patterns of dysfunction that are a result of their…
Five Reasons to Go Back to School After Age 50
Are you ready for grad school after 50? You are making changes in your life, BIG changes. Maybe you are headed back to school, grad school to be precise. You have decided to level up for your career, or you might be in a season of purposeful pivoting. Do you have what it takes to…